This story is based on an article I read called “30 things to stop doing it yourself. As I read, I could not help but think how true so many of them are and that some of them are particularly appropriate for those suffering from fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome and others. debilitating conditions.
Here are 16 things that I believe those of us with fibromyalgia need to stop doing:
1. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
If you have some kind of chronic debilitating condition, you have to put your own needs. Even if you are the healthiest person on the planet, you should not let your needs go to the back of the line. Since fibromyalgia is more common among women, which is especially true that women seem to say that their needs should come after their last husband, children, church, jobs, volunteer efforts and anything else that could perhaps come before themselves. It is amazing that we give ourselves time to all; unfortunately, too many of us do not do it.
2. Stop spending time with the wrong people.
If someone adds stress to your life, that stress makes you sick. Remove the stress by removing this person. You may not be able to delete them completely, but you can choose to avoid them if possible.
3. Stop grudges. retention
Grudge is unnecessary stress. It pushes us to create negative thoughts about a person and focus only on negative thoughts when we should try to find ways to focus on more positive things. Let go of the grudge. You always think of the person occasionally, but when you do, just shrug your shoulders and replace it with a thought of someone you love that makes you smile.
4. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
The ability to say no is very underestimated. Too often, those of us with fibromyalgia are unable to say no, feel guilty when we can not say yes or no. We can not be everything to everyone – we can not even be all to ourselves, and we must not be.
5. Stop lying to yourself.
You do not feel well, and someone asks how you are. You answer with, “I’m OK,” but that’s not the truth. It’s not the truth when you tell them, and it’s certainly not the truth when you say to yourself.
6. Stop wasting time telling others.
If you can not do something, stay simple – say no and move on. Do not try to explain why you can not do it because they might not be listening anyway.
7. Stop trying to keep to the past.
While you may be able to find ways to improve your symptoms, you will probably never get to 100 percent again. There will always be limits. Stop trying to find the levels of life you had before your illness and realize that what was then is now. Focus on what you can do instead of what you used to be able to do it.
8. Stop reprimanding yourself for old mistakes.
Guilt and blame are our constant friends. Stop fighting on things you have done in the past (or things you want that you did, but did not). He is in the past, let him go and move on. Again, focus on what you can do in the future.
9. Stop being jealous of others.
It’s so easy to be jealous of what others have or what others can do. Few we realize that they have limits too. Nobody sees the real life of another, their abilities or disabilities and their limitations. Do not judge your life based on the “Jones”, real or imaginary. Focus on what you have that is wonderful.
10. Stop complaining and feel sorry for yourself.
It’s OK to throw a pity game once in a while, but I believe it should never last more than five minutes, and you should never invite friends. Focus on the positive aspects in life – there are many.
11. Stop overlooking the beauty of the little moments.
How many times have we heard that we should stop and smell the roses? You really do not appreciate those little things that you can not do anymore. So, take a few moments each day and really think about the little things you could enjoy. Write them down so that you can look back on them later, when you contemplate this part of the pity.
12. Stop trying to do perfect things.
They are already. OK, maybe they are not perfect, and maybe they can even be better than now. But the point is that you need to focus on reality instead of perfection. Take small steps to make things better and get close to the idea of what you want your life to be like, without constantly worrying about how far from perfect you are still.
13. Stop acting as if everything is fine.
If all is not OK, it is OK to tell the truth. When a real friend or someone who really cares asks you how you are, be honest. Stop responding with “I’m fine” if you are not.
14. Stop worrying so much.
You feel like life is out of control, and maybe it is. So, do not worry. What life is going to be. Control the things you can control and let the rest go. worrying constant make you feel even worse.
15. Stop focusing on what you do not want to happen.
You do not want to wake up tomorrow in a rocket, so it’s all you think about and you end up preventing yourself from sleeping, which means waking up in a flare. Sounds familiar? Well, stop. Instead of thinking “I do not want to …” think “I want …. Focusing on the good night’s rest, you know you ‘re going to get and how good you’ll feel tomorrow because you’ve made the right choices about things that are in your control.
16. Stop being ungrateful.
Be grateful every minute of every day. There is something wonderful to be grateful for. Say “thank you” for the little things and hear. Instead of getting angry that someone did something you wanted to do because it made you feel “useless” or as they thought you were not doing your part, be grateful that they come to free you for do anything else you wanted to do.