Chronic pain is a condition that lasts for three months or more and continues after the lesion or condition treated. The experience of acute pain is the natural response of the nervous system to possible injury. Chronic pain, however, continue to abnormal pain signals. This can be distressing and exhausting for those suffering from chronic pain again. In some cases of chronic pain, there was an injury, illness or infection that caused the pain first. In others, however, chronic pain comes and goes without a history of these events.  To understand suffer from chronic pain, you should learn about chronic pain, being supportive and knows what to say and what not.
Part 1 Information about chronic pain
1. To learn more about the pain of the victim. The experience of chronic pain each patient is unique. It can be useful if you talk about the condition and its daily battle with pain. The more you know about what is going through chronic pain suffers, the more you will be able to understand what is for them.
- Do they suffer a sprained back, serious infection or there is an ongoing cause of pain such as arthritis, diabetic neuropathy, or some other type of nerve damage? Know when the pain began, and do some research or read stories about people with similar problems.
- Sometimes doctors can not find the source of pain. It is only present.
- Do not push a person suffering from chronic pain to talk about things they do not want. For some people, so it just made until they feel worse.
- chronic pain common complaints include headache, back pain, arthritis pain, pain damage to peripheral nerves or the central nervous system or pain without any known source.
- A person may have more than one condition of chronic pain, such as chronic fatigue syndrome, endometriosis, Sciatica, peripheral neuropathy, or inflammatory bowel disease, or depression co-existing.
- Accept that words may be inadequate to describe how the patient feels. Remember a time when you experienced a lot of pain and imagine that pain is present twenty four hours a day every day with no relief for the rest of your life. It is difficult to find words for that kind of pain.
2. Learn the code. A numerical pain scale is used to measure pain intensity so health care providers can test the effectiveness of treatment. A scale of 1 to 10 the level of pain is described. 1 is “no pain, feels wonderful” and 10 is the “worst pain I ever felt.” Do where they are on the pain scale.
- Do not assume the suffering chronic pain are not experiencing pain if they say they are fine. Many patients try to hide the pain due to a lack of understanding of others.
- When asked about their level of pain, patients with chronic pain can not give their real level of pain. Because your pain is chronic, who are used to a certain level of pain and can only accept it as normal or no pain. You can only give you a level of proper pain when they have some form of acute pain, when “normal” level of pain living with daily changes, when they experience pain now feels different (ie, “shoot” instead of “pain”, “burn” instead of beating “), or when directly asked about their current levels of acute and chronic pain.
3. Recognize coping skills. When you have the flu you probably feel miserable for a few days or weeks, but do the best you can to run. Chronic pain sufferers probably have been feeling bad for a long time. They may have adopted mechanisms that hide the true level of pain they feel coping or may not have the strength to function normally.
4. Be aware of the symptoms of depression. Chronic pain can cause secondary depression (not depressed and down if he was suffering constantly for months or years?). Depression can be due directly to the chronic pain and chronic pain may be directly due to depression.
- Depression can cause some people to show less emotion, which can mask the pain because the patient stops it known. Always be on the lookout for signs of depression, and do not confuse this with some less pain there.
- Depression can also cause people to show more emotion (crying and tearful, anxious, irritable, sad, lonely, despair, fear of the future, agitated easily, angry, frustrated, hyper / on chatty due to drugs / need to ventilate / lack of sleep). This, as well as their level of pain can vary from day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute.
- One of the worst things you can do is leave someone with chronic pain. That gives them more reason to be depressed, feeling alone and not be very positive. Try to be there to support them and show them however you can.
5. respect physical limitations. With many diseases, a person will show obvious signs of illness, such as fever paralysis or broken bones. Chronic pain, however, there is no way to know what a person ‘s ability to cope with the movement is like at any given time. You can not always read in your face or your body language either.
- The victim may not know, from day to day, how it will feel when they wake up. Every day has to be taken as it comes. This can be confusing for everyone, but it is very frustrating for the patient.
- Being able to stand for ten minutes does not mean that the patient can stand up for twenty minutes or an hour. The fact that the person managed to stand up for thirty minutes yesterday does not mean that they will be able to do the same today.
- The movement is not the only limitation suffering from chronic pain may experience. One of ability to sit, walk, concentrate and be sociable can also be affected.
- Understand much chronic pain if the victim says they have to sit, lie down, stay in bed or take these pills at this time . It is likely to mean that they have no choice and can not put it off just because you happen to be somewhere or are in the middle of doing something. Chronic pain does not wait for anyone.
6. Look for signs of pain. Grimacing, restlessness, irritability, mood swings, wringing her hands, moaning, sleep disturbance, gnashing of teeth, poor concentration, decreased activity and maybe even scoring suicidal thoughts or language may indicate suffering or pain. Be sensitive to what is going on .
7. Know that chronic pain is real. You might think that chronic pain sufferers go to doctors because they seek attention, like or are hypochondriacs. What they are really doing is looking for something to improve the quality of life, and often they are looking for the cause of your pain if not known. Nobody wants to feel the way they do, but they have no choice.
8. Recognize what you can not tell. Pain is a difficult thing to describe to someone else. It is considered personal and is based on both psychological and physical parts of us. Even if you are very empathetic, do not assume that you know exactly what you feel for that person. Sure, you know how it feels for you, but each of us is different, and it is impossible to get into the skin of a person and feel their pain.
Part 2 support being
1. Practice empathy. Being empathic means trying to understand another person’s feelings, perspectives and behavior of seeing the world through their eyes. This knowledge is used to guide what you do and say to that person. People with chronic pain are different from what in some respects but are also very similar to you, so focus on what they have in common and try to understand the differences.
- Being sick does not mean that the patient is no longer a human being. Although chronic pain sufferers spend most of the day in considerable pain, they still want the same things that healthy people want. They also want to enjoy work, family, friends and leisure activities.
- Chronic pain sufferer may feel like they’re trapped inside a body that have little or no control. Pain makes everything you used to enjoy out of reach and can contribute to feelings of helplessness, sadness and depression.
- Try to remember how lucky you are to be physically able to do all things that can be done. So you can imagine if you could not.
2. Respect the person who suffers is doing their best. They may try to face, happy sound and normal appearance as often as possible. They live their lives to the fullest of their ability. Note that when the patient says chronic pain are in pain – they are!
3. Listen. One of the best things you can do for a person suffering chronic pain is to listen to them. To be a good listener, pay attention and try to understand what is going on inside that person so you can understand how they feel and what they really needed.
- Make it clear you want to hear what they have to say. Many people with chronic pain feel that others do not believe them or ridicule them for being weak.
- Try to figure out what they are hiding or minimizing through body language and tone of voice.
- Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Share means that both gives something. To create a strong empathic bond and really make your subject of change, you will have to reveal their true feelings, beliefs and experiences.
4. Be patient. If you are impatient and wanting the victim to “just get on with it”, by which risks a guilt trip on the person suffering from pain and undermine its determination to confront being. You may want to comply with their requests to do things, but do not have the strength or ability to cope as a result of pain.
- Do not be discouraged if the chronic pain sufferer seems touchy. They’ve been through a lot. Chronic pain wreaks havoc on the body and mind. These people make every effort to address what is tiring and exasperating pain, but can not always be right. Try to accept them as they are.
- A victim chronic pain may have to cancel a previous engagement at the last minute. If this happens, please do not take it personally.
5. Be useful. Chronic pain sufferer depends largely on people who are not sick to support them at home or visit when you are too sick to leave. Sometimes they need help with bathing, dressing, personal care, etc. They may need help to go to the doctor. It can be your link to “normal” life and help them keep in touch with the parts of life that is lost and desperately want to perform again.
- Many people offer to help, but really are not there when he was asked to be. If you offer to help, be sure to follow through. The person with chronic pain who cares depends on you.
6. balance their caring responsibilities. If you are living with a person suffering from chronic pain or supporting a person on a regular basis, you need to maintain balance in their lives. If you do not take care of their own needs, balancing health and work-life, being near the victim chronic pain you can really bring you down. Avoid suffering caretaker burned by getting other people and to help take time. Caring for this person all you can, but remember to also take care of himself.
7. Treat with dignity. Although the person with chronic pain has changed, they think the same. Remember they are and the things they did before the pain became so bad. They remain the intelligent mind who made a good living at a job that may have loved and had no choice but to give up. Be friendly, attentive and not patronizing.
- Punishing a sick person not to go ahead with something will make them feel worse and show them you really do not understand. Those who experience chronic pain and deal with more than most could ever understand. Trying to understand why they could not go on.
8. include them in your life. The fact that someone can not do certain activities very often or is canceled before does not mean you should not ask them to join you or to hide it plans to them. There may be some days when the activity is manageable, and chronic pain is isolating enough! Please understand and keep asking.
9. Provide a hug. Instead of suggesting how patients can fix their pain, consider empathy and give them a soft cloth to let them know you’re there to support them embrace. And they hear and see countless doctors who tell them how to fix or help your chronic pain.
- Sometimes just putting hand on the shoulder of a person can help give them comfort. Remember to be gentle. Use a soft touch, something to help them connect.
Part 3 Knowing what to say
1. Let her talk to their children and fellow gym. Realize that chronic pain is variable and encouragement can be aggravating and demoralizing for those who suffer chronic pain. If you want to do something, then ask if you can and respect their answer.
- Try not say, “But it did before” or “Oh, come on, I know you can do this!”
- Staying as active as possible and participate in activities such as walking, cycling and tai chi may help relieve muscle and joint pain. Sometimes being sedentary causes pain worse. However, not lecture on the value of exercise and fresh air. For a person suffering chronic pain, these things can not help the pain and often can exacerbate it. Telling them they need to exercise or do something to “get your mind off of it” may frustrate them. If they were able to do these things some or all of the time, they would.
- Another statement that hurts is, “You just have to push yourself more, try harder”. Sometimes participating in a single activity for a short or long period of time can cause more damage and physical pain to chronic pain sufferer not to mention the recovery time, which can be severe.
- An individual with chronic pain do not need to be told “You’re too sensitive”, “You have to deal with it better” or “You have to do X, Y or Z”. Of course they are sensitive! You have no idea what deal or the amount of pain or concerns addressed.
2. Do not play doctor. Chronic pain sufferers are constantly working with doctors, trying to improve and do the right things for their disease. You may not give the right advice, especially if you are not medically trained and have no idea what that person is trying.
- Be sensitive to suggest medications or alternative treatments. prescription drugs, nonprescription drugs and alternative therapies can have side effects and unintended consequences.
- Some patients may not appreciate suggestions, but not because they want to be healthy. You may have heard of it or have already tried. They may not be ready to face a new treatment that can create an additional burden on their lives and have too. Treatments that have not worked carry the emotional pain of failure, which in itself can make the person feel worse.
- If anything cured or helped people with a particular form of chronic pain as theirs, and then let the patient know when they seem receptive and ready to listen. Be sensitive to how to broach the subject.
- No report on prescription drugs if they have been prescribed by a doctor. Pain management is unwieldy and some days these patients may require more pain medication than others. Tolerance is not addiction.
- Judging avoid drug use conducted by chronic pain sufferers.
3. Never use throwaway lines. Do not assume that you know better by making statements like “Oh, well, that’s life, you’re going to have to deal with that , ” or “You’ll get over it eventually,” “Until then, simply do your best” or worst of all, ‘well, you look pretty good’, etc. These lines are a way to distance themselves from the sick person. Often only it makes the patient feel worse and out of hope.
- People living with chronic pain know how they feel and are very aware of their situation, so avoid suffering project in the way we think they should be feeling.
- Throw lifelines instead of throwaway lines saying something like, “So how I can help” or “Is there anything I can do to help deal with their pain”
4. Do not compare health problems. Do not say “I’ve had that before and I’m fine now.” It shows their lack of understanding and makes the person living with chronic pain feels like a failure who can not handle what they are experiencing and others would do a much better job in the same situation.
5. Be positive. It ‘s horrible to live with chronic pain, but it’s even worse when people give them, they misunderstand or spread negativity. Everyday life can be difficult and lonely for those suffering from chronic pain. Constant support, offering hope and showing their love are things that are key to communicate with them.
- Comfort those with chronic pain, and let them know you are there for them. A faithful friend is a life saver!
6. Ask about your treatment. Investigate the degree of patient satisfaction with their treatment. It is important to useful questions about whether the chronic sufferer think your treatment is satisfactory or if they believe their pain is rare bearable.People once these questions open “votes” that could help chronic victim open and really talk is done.
7. Ask how they are. Be sure to ask someone with chronic pain , “How are you?” Just because the answer might be uncomfortable for you. It may be the only opportunity to show that you care about their welfare. And if you do not like the answer, remember it is your answer, not your opinion.
- When the sick person finally opens up to someone, you should not tell them to “talk about it too” or is “all they talk about.” Recognize that pain is likely that a large part of their lives. You may not want to talk about things like vacations, shopping, sports or gossip.
8. Know that silence is good too. Sometimes silence share together is good, and the patient is happy to be there with them. You do not have to fill every minute of conversation with words. His presence says a lot!
9. admit when you do not have answers. Do not use platitudes or bold claims that are not based on the fact conceal his ignorance. Not much, even the medical community does not know about chronic pain. There is no harm in saying “do not know” and then offer to discover things.